Change and friendship

[These are excerpts form a mail thread where some of my friends and me had a discussion on 'change' affecting friendships.]

[Twin]
I believe that you guys no longer find time to call your friends. I see a drastic change in Keshav and moderate change in you.

[Me]
Just put the question 'who sees the change and difference' and the change and difference you see will be gone .

We all are but a footprint on beach .... no matter how deep is the foot print , it will be erased by the next tide.

[Twin]
Put the same question to you . Why you see the change when you are not physically or mentally blind? Also,will a blind person experience "change" in the same way as a person who isn't blind?
Change is the only thing constant in this world. I wholly believe that people do change, whether the change is for better or for worse, and thats not a mere individual's perception.

Let us be a foot print on the sands of Saharan desert that would last more time until the blowing of a sand dune makes it blurred.

[Mama]
Why things change? Why things can't remain the way they are? There are factors/stimulus/forces/circumstances etc etc. behind a change. As the clock ticks things change and history documents the change. Change is something which is inevitable. It only depends how you see it or take it. It depends on the observers perspective how he sees the change.

[Me]
All change is relative. Change is not absolute , but depends on the observer's cognition .
Get a holistic view of things and you will see that there is no change.

For example , you will see water 'change' to ice or to steam. The change is related to temperature and in reality there is no change. In other words, the change is due to the fact that the observer is seeing 'water' at a different temperature.

Another instance : take the cone - its a point when seen from the top , a circle when seen from the bottom and a triangle when seen from the side . But none of the three shapes truly represent the cone . The shape of the cone depends on the angle of the observer and taken together give the correct shape of the cone.

The point that I am coming to now is about the observer. Now we are convinced that its the observer's perception which is responsible for the change. So , I asked you the question , who is the observer ? If you put the question to yourself , it becomes "who am I" . Who is that who sees the change ? If you answer that , then the change you see will vanish.

You asking the question "why there is a change" is akin to asking why things are the way it is . Why I am in Japan and not in Sahara (to leave a foot print ) ?

By the way, leaving foot print in Sahara was a good one . Lucky that you did not ask us to leave the foot print in some sedimentary sandstone like a paleolithic mammoth. That would have been preserved for ages !

[Me]
Irrespective of the 'change' we are in , we will continue to like each other. There is not even an iota of doubt on this . Only thing is that you should imbibe this thought and not falter away from it.

Do you remember the rainbow disc which we used to make in 3rd standard school ? We used to make a circular disc , paint the seven colors in order , put a pin in the center and spin it ... lo you would see white color .
We are all different like the seven colors - which when spun by 'change' will give a whole new color. Remember , even if one color is changed , it will not become white.

I would like to conclude this thread by quoting the shanti mantra "sahaveeryam karavaavahai" ... together we will achieve.